April 30, 2008 § Leave a comment
Helping clients with interview nerves is one of the areas that I am particularly interested and specialise in. There is so much that can be done with nlp to help people feel much better about the upcoming interview or presentation.
We get into such a state. How does that happen? And why does it feel like a life or death situation?
Robert Dilts calls it a ‘thought virus’. I like to call it fantasising! What do we do – we think about the interview and we run a movie of the worst case scenario in our heads. That tends to be the experience of most people I see. Now the unconscious mind, which is the most of our mind, doesn’t know the difference between a real or vividly imagined event. If you shut your eyes and imagine eating a lemon, then you will probably start salivating. That is a physiological response to something made up in your head. And that’s true for everything else you make up.
So imagine, every time you think about that terrible ‘gone wrong’ interview you produce adrenalin appropriate for a terrible interview. Now it’s fine to think through all the possible questions you could be asked and think how best to answer but to construct a really bad scenario is counter productive to your needs right now.
And here’s why. Each time you do it, your unconscious mind on some level thinks it’s actually happened. So by the time you have mentally rehearsed a bad interview several times, you will have had several bad interviews from your unconscious minds’ perspective. So, no wonder it’s terrified of going for another one!
If you do not know exactly how an interview or presentation is going to play out because you don’t have a time machine, then you are fantasising! So what I suggest you do is have a fantasy about how great the interview is going to be. Now that is going to leave you in a much more resourceful state. Your mind will think that it’s great at interviews and another one, i.e. the real one will also be a success like all the other ones were.
Add to this the fact that we create conditioned responses like Pavlov’s dogs, then when you go to the interview you will have a physiologically conditioned response on the day which you have been carefully been creating during the days and weeks before.
So which response are you going to condition for yourself?
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August 7, 2007 § Leave a comment
What is the purpose of a panic attack? In my opinion and in my experience it is the unconscious mind using a sledgehammer to get your conscious minds attention. My guess is that its tried other methods like a pit of the stomach feeling or nausea, but these efforts have been ignored or misunderstood. I had a client who was having panic attacks and he had no clue why. I used a simple NLP technique called ‘parts integration’ to start a dialogue with his unconscious mind. We brought the part which was causing the panic attacks out onto his hand and asked it for what purpose it was producing these unwanted feelings. Within seconds he had his answer – he needed to postpone his wedding for six months. It was that simple. There were so many things going on in his work and professional life that the wedding on top of it all was sending him into stress overload. He was so caught up in his life and had been under stress for so long that he thought he was coping – but he wasn’t and his unconscious mind was trying to tell him that he was near to breaking point. The result was that he rearranged the wedding, the family were very supportive and the panic attacks stopped immediately. NLP is very simple. It uses simple techniques but don’t let that fool you because they are exceptionally powerful. If you are having panic attacks, there is probably a very good reason for it and you need to address it as soon as possible because to my mind you are nearing breaking point and you need help to find out what’s going on for you. Sit down with a trained practitioner and let them help you to get in touch with your unconscious mind. It may be some simple bit of wood that you cant see for the trees. NLP in Glasgow Scotland – www.mindschange.com
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