August 3, 2007 § Leave a comment
The fear of failure – good thing or a bad thing? Yes and no. Think about it, you have an exam to sit and you need to study. Very few people actually enjoy studying but the fear of failure miraculously allows us to find the resources we need to sit at a desk for hours cramming. The same holds for writing reports, training for a sport and so on. However, the fear of failure crosses the threshold on to the bad side when it starts to hold us back from the things we should be doing – taking a chance in our career, sitting down to write or paint, phoning someone we haven’t spoken to for years. Studies have shown that we are much more likely to take a chance and gamble in order not to loose what we already have than gamble in order to get something we don’t have. Now that leads to a very static life likely to get caught in an eddy. People don’t realise how stuck they are.
Where does this fear of failure come from? Well the interesting thing is, as in evolutionary design, the mind doesn’t create new fear for every new situation, it builds on previous fear. You can usually trace fear back through your timeline to a very young age. So you first feel fear, great, it produced the desired response and you got a result , whatever that may have been, you ran away or attracted your mothers attention. The next time you are in a tricky situation you know where to get that fear feeling again. And this continues for the rest of your life growing an intricate and powerful fear response. And a lot of the time the fear is completely disproportionate for the situation … say in an interview where the adrenelin produced is sufficient to get you out of a tiger chasing senario but certainly not helpful in a situation where you need to think clearly and appear relaxed…. I don’t think so!
However, help is at hand. NLP can break the neurological connections to that old fear allowing you to create a new and more appropriate fear for the adult you now are. It wont stop your ability to feel fear, it just means that you are no longer tapping into the deep, pit of the stomach fear that is completely inappropriate and is holding you back mightily.
Do not let the fear of failure hold you back any longer … it can so easily be got rid of, its just a waste of your time and time is precious in this life. Think about what it will be like in the future, now, when you are doing the thing you were meant to do , as you look back on the way it used to be as you think about it , now.
Dorothy C. Le Grove is an NLP Master Practitioner. she lives in Glasgow Scotland.
August 1, 2007 § Leave a comment
Its a great pity that nlp in Glasgow hasn’t yet taken off. In the addiction capital of the uk it is needed more than ever. If someone is really ready to change and wants desperately to give up smoking, drinking, eating chocolate, whatever it is, then nlp can make it so easy. I once got a client off chocolate in 3 minutes… and almost a year later he still hasn’t gone back to it.
People develop addictions as patterns of behaviour; they become lodged in our neurology. NLP can re-pattern, reprogramme your mind to take you back to a point before you first took the substance so that you would have to learn to be addicted all over again …which I’m guessing you probably wouldn’t want to do. Right?
If you want to give something up, and willpower isn’t enough … try NLP, it really works!
www.mindschange.com for NLP in Glasgow Scotland
www.sound-training.co.uk for location sound training for AP’s DP’s and self shooters
July 31, 2007 § Leave a comment
people always ask me – what is nlp. a very good question and one which most nlp practitioners find difficult to answer. Nlp came about as a series of very successful modelling projects. John Grinder and Richard Bandler the founders of nlp studied people who were excellent at what they did over a long period of time in order to find out what made them excell. over time these modelling projects have continued and continue today. so nlp is finding out the difference which makes the difference and then using it in your own life to change … for the better.
For NLP in Glasgow Scotland visit –
To stop smoking go to www.stop-smoking-glasgow.co.uk
For a sound recordist in Scotland go to www.soundrecordistscotland.com
And for sound training for AP’s, DP,s and self shooters go to www.sound-training.co.uk