Interview and Presentation Nerves

April 30, 2008 § Leave a comment

Helping clients with interview nerves is one of the areas that I am particularly interested and specialise in. There is so much that can be done with nlp to help people feel  much better about the upcoming interview or presentation.

We get into such a state. How does that happen?  And why does it feel like a life or death situation?

 

Robert Dilts calls it a ‘thought virus’. I like to call it fantasising! What do we do – we think about the interview and we run a movie of the worst case scenario in our heads. That tends to be the experience of most people I see. Now the unconscious mind, which is the most of our mind, doesn’t know the difference between a real or vividly imagined event. If you shut your eyes and imagine eating a lemon, then you will probably start salivating. That is a physiological response to something made up in your head. And that’s true for everything else you make up.

So imagine, every time you think about that terrible ‘gone wrong’ interview you produce adrenalin appropriate for a terrible interview. Now it’s fine to think through all the possible questions you could be asked and think how best to answer  but to construct a really bad scenario is counter productive to your needs right now.

And here’s why. Each time you do it, your unconscious mind on some level thinks it’s actually happened. So by the time you have mentally rehearsed a bad interview several times, you will have had several bad interviews from your unconscious minds’ perspective. So, no wonder it’s terrified of going for another one!

If you do not know exactly how an interview or presentation is going to play out because you don’t have a time machine, then you are fantasising! So what I suggest you do is have a fantasy about how great the interview is going to be. Now that is going to leave you in a much more resourceful state. Your mind will think that it’s great at interviews and another one, i.e. the real one will also be a success like all the other ones were.

Add to this the fact that we create conditioned responses like Pavlov’s dogs, then when you go to the interview you will have a physiologically conditioned response on the day which you have been carefully been creating during the days and weeks before.

So which response are you going to condition for yourself?

For more information on NLP go to http://www.mindschange.com

 

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Confidence and Self Esteem Workshop Feedback

February 29, 2008 § Leave a comment

Well when you ask for feedback you can never be sure what you are going to get! I’m pleased to say it was all good. Whew. So here are some of the lovely things you said –

 ‘What a great way to spend an afternoon! A life changing experience in 3 hours. You will walk away knowing you have the ability to change you’. LH

‘Very well explained, great audience participation. I felt very relaxed on arrival. The presentation helped put a lot of missing pieces to the jigsaw. Very enjoyable from start to finish’. Liz G

‘It was fun and I understood what was being said’. Sara H

‘The workshop is a great way to boost your inner self. It’s great fun and a great way to boost your inner self’. Allison B

‘It encourages you to leave the past and become motivated for the future’. Sharyn G

 ‘Dorothy’s workshop was fantastic! Very informative. I left feeling motivated, focused, and believing that I could achieve anything. Most recommended. Thank you’. Clare A

So thanks again to all for making it a wonderful day.

Dorothy C. Le Grove

www.mindschange.com

Confidence and Self Esteem Workshop

February 25, 2008 § Leave a comment

I would like to say a big thank you to all who attended last weeks workshop at Gather in Glasgow. It was a really fantastic afternoon with a great bunch of people.

Thanks also for all the great questions you threw at me – keeps me on my toes!

I am waiting for the last of the feedback forms and will publish a couple of them soon.

 I look forward to seeing you again at future events.

Dorothy

for more information about NLP please go to http://www.mindschange.com

Interview Nerves

December 12, 2007 § Leave a comment

   Interview Nerves How many people go into interviews absolutely churned up with nerves? Do you know, it doesn’t need to be the case. Rather than having that fight or flight misery how about feeling that the interview was a challenge, exciting, a bit of a roller coaster ride and no ones going to die! All the clients who have come to see me have all gone on to get the job and had a much better interview that they could have imagined. Here’s what some of them  have to say …   

 In one short session Dorothy and NLP changed me from being terrified of job interviews to positively enjoying them as an opportunity to sell myself and my skills. Because of my particular circumstances I have to perform at interview on a relatively regular basis and I genuinely believe that I would not be where I am now if it had not been for Dorothy’s intervention. A year ago I was absolutely hating my job and feeling that my career future was pretty bleak. Since then I have performed strongly at interviews on many occasions and managed to secure three fantastic job opportunities which have reconfirmed my love of my job and put a spring back in my step. I can not even imagine how I felt before… Now, whenever I need to be confident and upbeat I have a set of tools I can call on which work instantly, easily and reliably – both within a work context and across the rest of my life. And it’s all thanks to Dorothy!  D S

 Can I just say that you and NLP changed my life! You definitely taught me how to think about things in a different way and to let a lot of things go that had been holding me back – so hooray for you and NLP. Since NLP session life has changed for the better.  – L.V. 

 “I have had a fear of interviews for years and in fact most of my working life.  I recently went for a job and would have pulled out of the interview had I not been put in touch with Dorothy via a colleague.  I found only a couple of short NLP sessions immensely helpful in focusing positively and with confidence on what I had to do and  I am happy to say I got the job!  I intend to continue finding out more about NLP and how it can help me have a less stressful work/life balance”.  Dot you have found your vocation!  Thank you! D.H  

So wherever you are, think seriously about seeing an NLP practitioner if interview nerves are a problem for you. You’ll have a much more positive and enjoyable experience as a result and it may mean the difference between getting the job and not.  For more information about NLP see www.mindschange.com

NLP Training

September 26, 2007 § Leave a comment

Minds Change is an NLP Training company based in Glasgow, Scotland.  We offer NLP workshops and Executive Coaching. Below is one of many modules we offer which you may consider essential for your company’s progress. The aim of this particular training workshop is to  

·        develop excellence in communication across the organisation. 

·         understand your clients or colleagues’ mental strategies, personal beliefs and motivations. 

·        Develop the skills of mentoring through effective communication   

 

Language Patterns:   During the training workshop discover how to use language patterns to communicate consciously and unconsciously with yourself and others.  

Ever heard people say things like ‘ oh she doesn’t like me’ or ‘they never listen to me’ ‘ or ‘ my boss/husband/ wife doesn’t know how much I suffer’ or ‘that’s expensive’ (speak to sales!) 

These are examples of distortions, generalisations and deletions which people use in their language every day. In the workplace or in our personal lives these phrases can be really unhelpful and don’t give us the information we need.  So when we are in a good state of rapport with someone we can learn to spot these patterns  gently challenge them with a series of well placed questions.  

These questions help  to really get below the ‘surface structure’ of what someone is saying and find out what’s really going on for them.  

In the area of sales or business negotiations, when you are handling objections  at the surface structure another one will inevitably pop up. However if you use these ‘Meta Model’ questions you can move to the deep structure to find out what the real objection is. This gives you much more information and a much better chance of resolving it. 

 For further information call 00 44 7815 75 11 58 or visit the Minds Change website  www.mindschange.com 

NLP Answers

August 31, 2007 § Leave a comment

Having Looked through this blog you may find that you have some questions that you would like answered. How can NLP help you in your daily life? Well it doesn’t need to be the big things, NLP is great for the little things. Actually, particularly the little things because its these everyday patterns of behaviour that have been there for years and which go un-noticed that can cause the most trouble.

 So go for it! Hit me with anything. I look forward to your posts.

 Or for more Information about what  NLP  is go to www.mindschange.com

Comfort Eating

August 29, 2007 § Leave a comment

NLP and Comfort Eating in Glasgow.

 

Why do people comfort eat? Well, to get a handle on that, you need to understand a bit about the unconscious mind.  Your conscious mind can handle about seven plus or minus two bits of information at any one time. Think how many digits of a phone number you can remember when someone shouts them out and at what point your brain just gives up and they all merge into one.

 

In NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming we say that the unconscious mind on the other hand is dealing with so much more which includes everything coming at you from your senses, your breathing, blinking, moving your muscles and the rest. The figures vary between 4 to 11 million bits of information at any one time. To think we are conscious beings is to be very wide of the mark. The psychology establishment  are now coming round to the idea that we are mostly unconscious beings who work on instinct and react to the world around them in similar ways to other animals.

 

So the analogy which is often used is that the conscious mind is like the captain of a ship and the unconscious mind is like the crew. Imagine that the crew are seven years old  and we are getting even closer.  Now each member of the crew and each part of your unconscious mind has your best interests at heart.  So if its given a job it will do it to the best of its ability.  Say for instance as a child, when something bad happened a parent would cheer you up by giving you some chocolate.  If this happened a number of times, a part of you would associate cheering up with chocolate. As you grew up and things went wrong that part would step right up and offer its solution. The more often this happened the more anchored that would become to that idea.

 

Now if you go through a period of unhappiness then that part  would be constantly there offering food as a comfort i.e. you would comfort eat.. What its not very good at is seeing  the bigger picture which is that comfort eating and getting fatter is another source of unhappiness. If you are not being comforted in your life and it provides however fleeting a feeling of comfort, then its going to be difficult to persuade that part to stop what its doing. To stop it from comfort eating.

 

So what do you do? Well firstly you need to change your thinking. Look at your life and pay special attention to the areas where you are being comforted. If you are unhappy, the chances are that your internal filters are set to ignore the good parts of your life and see only the negative. You need to change that behaviour. Negative thoughts should be banned from your thinking. The minute they come at you actively think of something you enjoy or are grateful for. Really take charge of your thoughts. It requires discipline at first but gets easier and conditioned with time. Think about the things which do comfort you and concentrate on them. Make them bigger and brighter. Talk to yourself as you would to a seven year old child who you wanted to motivate. Get them to focus on anything good which happens. This will change your brain chemistry to produce more ‘happy’ chemicals and you will start to feel better. Its similar to getting fit; going to the gym can be difficult to start but if you keep going you start to see the benefits and it becomes a habit.  Take charge of your thinking and it too becomes habitual.

 

Once you prove to the part which provides comfort in the form of food that actually you are comforted in so many other ways that it is a bit redundant, you can more easily persuade it to stop what it does – to stop you comfort eating.

 

Try it for two weeks and see what happens. Tell your unconscious mind that you’re not doing negative thoughts for a fortnight and that if it wants it can start it up again then. The chances are that when it sees how much better you feel, it won’t bother.

 

 

 For more information about NLP visit www.mindschange.com/about.htm

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